Where I Stand
I’m not calling every Republican a cult member. I’m talking about the die-hard MAGA crowd that defends Trump no matter what. For context, I voted for him in 2016 because I was skeptical of Hillary Clinton—and I regretted it quickly. When the “Access Hollywood” tape surfaced, I knew what it said about how he talks about women, but I still told myself, “Well, it’s better than Hillary.” That was me giving him a pass, and I own that. On Oct. 7–8, 2016, a 2005 hot-mic recording was published in which he boasted about kissing and groping women without consent and pursuing a married woman—that’s the tape I’m talking about (see links in “Further reading”).
The Double Standard I Keep Seeing
Here’s the pattern I run into: Trump says or does something that would be disqualifying for anyone else, and the reaction is, “That’s just how he talks.” Criticism is waved off as hate. Facts get brushed aside. The standard shifts in real time to shield him.
- When that 2016 tape came out, people I know called it “locker-room talk.” These same folks would torch any other man for it. (Context: the tape showed him bragging about grabbing and kissing women without consent.)
- About a month after Biden was sworn in—around February—I asked a friend about the 2020 loss. She told me, with absolute confidence in her voice, “He couldn’t lose.” Not “shouldn’t.” Couldn’t. That isn’t normal political support; that’s devotion.
- He once said he could stand “in the middle of Fifth Avenue and shoot somebody” and not lose voters. What an arrogant thing to say—even as a “joke.” The fact that some people shrugged it off still amazes me. If Biden or Obama had said that, these same people would’ve lost their minds.
- The conversation-stoppers—“fake news,” “witch hunt,” “they just hate him”—pop up the second you raise a specific concern. It shuts down evidence before evidence is even considered.
Election Denial and the Evidence Problem
2020 is when the devotion snapped into focus for me. Friends and family told me the election was stolen. I kept asking for real proof—something verifiable. What came back was always hearsay: a clip, a personality, a headline. Meanwhile, court after court—conservative judges included—rejected the claims. Trump’s own attorney general said there was no evidence of widespread fraud that would change the outcome. Federal election-security officials called it the most secure election in American history.
The Georgia Call, In Plain English
I listened to the full call with Georgia’s secretary of state. He pressed them to “find” the exact number of votes he needed. If any other president had done that, my MAGA friends would call it corrupt and an abuse of power. But for Trump, the excuses arrived on schedule.
Why Some People Still Feel Safe With Him
I get the pull. In the very beginning, I wondered if he might be a strong leader—he sounded confident, he had charisma, and he was a sharp speaker. I was never a big Trump supporter, but I can see why that energy made some folks feel protected. Social scientists sometimes call this “charismatic authority,” where loyalty flows to a person because of their supposed extraordinary qualities more than to any rule or institution. When that devotion hardens into a leader-as-savior brand, it edges toward a “cult of personality.” None of that, by itself, excuses anything. My bottom line stays the same: tell the truth, back up claims, accept losses, and put principles over personality.
Immigration: What People Want vs. What He Sells
Most people I talk to want the law enforced without cruelty. They don’t want to terrorize every immigrant. Public opinion is mixed and practical, not “all-or-nothing”: many Americans—including a chunk of Republicans—support some legal pathway under conditions, even if they also want tougher enforcement at the border (see Pew and Gallup trends in “Further reading”).
The Bottom Line
Disagree with me on policy all day—fine. But when a movement demands loyalty to one man, dismisses evidence, and shifts standards so nothing ever sticks, that’s not normal politics. That’s cult-like behavior. I’ve seen it up close, and I won’t pretend it’s something else just to keep the peace at the dinner table.
Sources
- Charismatic authority (Britannica) — overview of how loyalty can center on a leader’s perceived extraordinary qualities.
- Cult of personality (Britannica) — how a leader-as-savior brand gets built and sustained.
Further reading (optional)
- Access Hollywood reporting (Washington Post, Oct. 7–8, 2016) and the full transcript (LA Times).
- “Fifth Avenue” quote recap (TIME).
- Raffensperger call transcript/audio (Washington Post).
- Barr: no evidence of widespread fraud (AP, Dec. 1–2, 2020).
- Joint statement: 2020 election “most secure” (CISA/GCC, Nov. 12, 2020).
- Courts dismissed 50+ post-election lawsuits (Reuters).
- Immigration attitudes & the 2024 election (Pew) and recent immigration concern trends (Gallup).